Vol. 15 No. 4, February 17, 2014, ISSN: 1536-2035
(c) 2014, Mary Beth Akers and Heather Idoni
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IN THIS ISSUE:
Notes from Mary Beth
-- Talent vs. Hard Work
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Notes from Mary Beth
It's Much More Than Just Talent!
Do you ever notice that achievement is not always in proportion to
Try to cultivate a "can-do" attitude in your children by letting them
know how much you appreciate their efforts and how much you enjoy the
fruit of those efforts. When I would practice piano, my mother would
say, "Oh, I love that song! Would you play it for me again?" Not
only did she get me to practice the piece again, but she also gave me
confidence in knowing that I was pleasing her. Children like to
please their parents. We all like to please the people in our lives.
Pleasing others is a great motivator. As I was working on this
newsletter, I asked my son why he practiced so hard on his violin. He
said that he knew it was a dream of his dad that his children learn to
play violin, and he knew that he was making his dad happy.
Have you ever heard a person remark about someone else's "talent?"
Do you ever wonder whether you can do anything to enhance your child's gifts?
I believe it is a crippling error to think that "talent" is fixed at
birth. While I acknowledge that personality and aptitude can
influence the course an individual takes, the truth is that other
factors play significant roles as well -- perhaps more significant.
As you consider this topic in the context of home schooling, I think
you will see that most of the elements of high achievement readily
lend themselves to the home school setting.
My children are accomplished violinists. When someone says something
about them being "talented," I am tempted to enlighten that person
about the countless hours of hard work that have gone into their
skills. Whether you're talking about great artists, writers,
athletes, scholars, composers, musicians, craftsmen, speakers,
leaders, mechanics, or any masters in their fields -- they would not
have succeeded on raw talent alone.
Many of the examples mentioned below come from research examining the
success of these elite masters, because they are more visible. But
please understand that I'm not suggesting that everyone must aspire to
fame and accolades. The stars would have no stage if it weren't for
the very capable crew behind the scenes. Taylor Hudson and Theodore
Roosevelt once returned home on the same train. There was a festive
homecoming celebration for Roosevelt, who had been vacationing on a
hunting trip in Africa. No one noticed Hudson, who had been in China
leading souls to Christ. The world doesn't usually applaud the work
that has the greatest value. One touchdown in a high school football
game will get more cheers than a typical home school mom and dad will
ever hear in their lifetimes.
Imagine a garden with rich soil. If the owner never plants seeds or
tends that garden, it will produce only weeds. Likewise, a child will
never master anything worthwhile if his abilities are not cultivated.
There have been many studies of people who are world-class in their
fields. These studies have shown that it takes 10,000 hours of
practice to reach that level of achievement; it takes the brain that
long to process and assimilate the skills and information necessary to
achieve true expertise.
One study of 120 internationally-recognized athletes, performers,
artists, biochemists and mathematicians, showed that every person in
the study had spent at least ten years of diligent effort, study or
practice to realize their accomplishments. Olympic swimmers and the
best concert pianists had taken fifteen years to master their skills.
Now, don't announce to your children that they have to spend thousands
of hours working their fingers to the bone. Our strategies will be
more subtle than that.
Few highly recognized people showed exceptional potential when they
were beginners. Olympic figure skaters started out by falling down.
They became winners because they had good instruction and mentoring;
they were given time to develop their skills; they were provided with
quality equipment; and they were supported and encouraged in their
efforts, even when no progress was evident. Someone helped them to
see value in what they were doing long before they hung any ribbons on
Not every area of endeavor has a goal of Olympics competition. A
child might become a research scientist, but at the age of eight or
nine, he just wants to finish today's math assignment so he can go out
and play. Young children can't see more than a few minutes into the
future. To explain to them how their efforts today will benefit them
two years from now, or ten years from now, is like trying to explain
to a fish the benefits of riding a bicycle.
In the early stages of maturity, the teacher is key. At the beginning
level, it is important that the teacher simply nurture a love of the
topic. Then it becomes easy to help the child develop skills and
knowledge. Eventually they will benefit from interaction with others
who will model persistence, resilience, good social skills, and how to
deal with both failure and success.
In the case of most homeschoolers, the parent will be the teacher as
well. If you have enrolled your child with another instructor, you
will be more of a supporting supervisor. Whether you are cheering
from the sidelines or doing the coaching, it is important to carefully
consider your strategies for encouraging your child.
Preaching, criticism or threats are counter-productive. You want your
children to feel good about what they are doing, and nagging never
made anyone feel good. Be involved, but not hovering; available, but
not meddling. Be supportive and understanding; be interested in, and
enthusiastic about, your children's pursuits.
Praise must be sincere and knowledgeable. For example, "I know it
seems slow and tedious to you, but your typing is so much more
accurate now; you'll be writing a best-seller before you know it!"
Or, "Would you like for me to help you take the stitches out? It's
okay; I made the same mistakes when I was learning how to put in a
zipper. Zippers are tough; I'm proud of you for trying."
Always be available to answer your children's questions or help them
find the answers. Provide opportunities for them to interact with
adults who have good work ethic and high standards. Challenge them to
try new things, and to realize that we sometimes learn through
failures. Help them to understand that they don't have to be tops at
everything. Try to help them see the difference between perfectionism
and standards of excellence; the difference between pride and dignity.
So, do you see what an advantage your children have? Private tutors
and mentors; time (even more than 10,000 hours!) to pursue interests;
instructors who care deeply and are intensely involved in their lives.
Your children are destined for excellence.
-- Mary Beth
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